"Just Being Me"

How important it is to like somebody? I've always wondered  if the people I like, likes me. I never ask them. But now at my age Why would I ask.  I've ask at least once. and that was because I heard they didnt. and the first thing that comes to our minds is Well, if they dont like me, I dont like them, Hmmmm that's just so elementary.. If a person dont like me I ask why? Just for GP . It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. For the last 3 weeks I have been Flirting like crazy, and i dont even really like some of the guys I flirt with..But at the end of the day, What exactly did I accomplish my leading them on? Well I can say this, Its getting me in more trouble..because at some point I will have to explain it....like is most important...fo'sho

Have you ever met a person that appears to have the heart of stone?. You can ask them something and they never ever give you a straight answer. They never want you to know what they are thinking. You confide in them and you tell them your dreams and what you want, and they never react. I think that's being cold and callous. Is it past history that keeps us from keeping real with everybody? Or that if i do this they will take advanage of my feelings. Wow..What a concept. When we are at our jobs daily, we put on a front. We dont like everybody we work with but we put on face. well expected. But at the end of the day. Who tha hell are you? The hardest thing in life is to have words in your heart you can't utter. That happens to me more now than ever. Things keep me from saying what i want to say. You how you just want to walk up to a person and just say what you feel and let the chips fall where they may..  be it good or bad..Today I went on a limb(and i do that sometimes) and ask

For we search last in the likeliest places. Robert Brault  said it best. I can say that If i knew what the likeliest place was i would have looked there first. What does brings happiness? But what i know fo"sho is that i dont want to pretend that I am happy, I dont want to pretend that i am in a relationship, nor pretend like i am in love. What a freakin waste of time. When you get a certain age, you feel like I am never going to be happy. But things make you say, Do i have to have somebody to be happy? Most people would rather be certain they're miserable, than risk being happy.People come in our lives for different reasons.I thought i was on the right road to happiness but i may have stumble..I cool with that..detours are a good thing.. But i do know what will make me happy for a while. Somebody to share my thoughts and ideas and just somebody who share by views, Its hard as hell to find a good few good men. I mean where do we find them at?. I found somebody that i like, but

Such a true statement, But i want to be as happy as i can be. I am a very private person, I want to be loved with compassion. not too be love in your own way. where do they do that at? unacceptable. Just havent ran across that person yet.Do you have friends that drops over when they get ready? Well i dont, I very seldom have company.If the door bell ring, My son and I will look at each other and say who the heck is that? lol.We are a private family. It was one time that I gave a person a open invitation, they can come anytime it didnt matter the invitation never expires. They never used it, Will they ever? who knows. But its something that i offered because i know i would drop what i was doing just to tend to them. Where do they do that at? lol.... people are so selfish these days they only think about themselves. So its hard to pick a good man that will except you for who you are.  I have a best friend i see whenever we find the time to hook up like this past weekend, we just got in t

When you're with them,You meet And neither one of you Even know what hit 'em? Well I havent yet, But I want to know what that feels like. Have you ever liked somebody but they didnt return the favor? Once in my lifetime, so you know it was hard for me. i was so use to getting what i want when i wanted it. I didnt know the signs of rejections. but i found out. and as I think about it. I was wrong. Instead of me accepting the fact that i really was rejected, I decided to just see was i loosing my touch. some will call it acting out.  So i started flirting and as part of my nature i am good at what i do..I said all the things a man wanted to hear and more..but i got more than i bargain for. Dudes is breathing down my neck.Now i can't get rid of them. I can't tell them i was using them.. I just want to make sure everything was still in tact. But come to find out the reason i was rejected is because he dont like anyway. and i think i made it worse coming on to him. yea i fel

People pretend to be a whole lot of things. What's wrong with being who you are? Why go thru life being something you know you aren't..Its like being a short story, pretending to be a novel.One thing I really hate is pretending to be in Love...Some folks will fake a whole relationship, We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. .Why do we pretend to be happy? I mean h appiness and sadness run parallel to each other.  When one takes a rest, the other one tends to take up the slack Just be you. God has given you one face, and you make yourself another. ...

What I'm looking for is a blessing that's not in disguise.  Tall, handsome, sensitive, passionate, Does this exist or is this a myth to want all that's good. You know what i want? Someone who likes me first, for just who i am. when you see me, i just take your breath away. your heart stops when i pass by......ok I'm woke now...but it was a nice fantasy.. Men dont do that anymore. most of the time they just want the cookies. Thats why being single looks better everyday..But If i have offered my cookies to you. You got to be the hottest thing ever.If you reject my cookies that means i am only an options,,hmmmmm, i will pass i dont do options..I likes to keep it at a 100...always..i might need to tear down a few wall some folks got build up so high they can't see wuts waiting for them on the other sides...you missed your blessing.oooooooh

Today was one of those days where quietness sneaks in. During my walk this morning i notice that someone was quiet than she ususally are. I waited a minute to ask how she was doing and she have a long sigh. i knew something was troubling her but i waited till she was ready. She's unhappy how things are. granted she works hard because thats who she is. but when it go un notice, you ask the question Do people really care? No? not all of them. The world is full of willing people, some willing to work, the rest willing to let them..but when you dont get recognition for fear of others might think you are showing favortism that's just not even how that goes.  If i work hard and it shows i want them to know..hey this is what Karen do, and to show my appreciation this is what i am doing for her. When you have given nothing, ask for nothing. treat me as an individual. It shouldnt matter what the others think anyway. maybe they will wake up and start doing more...But you really can't

I can't tell you what it really is, I can only tell you what it feels like: A great man is known. He needs no introduction... : " There is no need to boast of your accomplishments and what you can do.. A great man is known. He needs no introduction....But I have also h..."

  There is no need to boast of your accomplishments and what you can do.. A great man is known. He needs no introduction....But I have also heard, It's a sorry dog that won't wag his own tail.. I hate when people brag, especially when  it comes to how many men or women they have..I clinge everytime i hear it. because if you really got it like that..it needs no intoduction. We would know, as they say the proof is in the pudding..Why do we have to step a few toes to show you got somebody?...I am not easily impressed. to be totally honest with you,There are only two kinds of people who are really fascinating: people who know absolutely everything, and people who know absolutely nothing, I have witness some great men, you never hear them brag or boast about what they have done or can do,or what they have.They dont have to. Rich people scream Wealthy people Whispers..Real talk.. Men be a man, and women, be a woman..we spend most of our lives trying to show others that we are the shy

If I were a boy I think I could understand How it feels to love a girl I swear I'd be a better man...One of my favorite Beyonce' songs..I say that to say this: At what age to we stop the games? I think when you get to age 45 the games should be over. Why not get serious, life is way too short for the dumb shyt. Some people need to be single. because thier main goal is to use people. But if you like somebody tell them, maybe yall may have something in common. stop making excuses because there isnt any. Either you like them or you don't. If you dont like them, tell them youre not interested. Everybody knows what rejection feel like right? I had one failed marriage, I blame my ex, then I blame myself, now i am over it..I know marriage is a two way street, We changed and forgot to tell each other..We were not meant to be together, we live and learn, but we dont build a wall because the same wall we build to keep certain kind of folks out is the same wall that's keeping hap

What i witness today, put me in neutral. here i sit in the middle of a power struggle. I didnt know who to believe. I am so confused right now.. All i want is to know what i am doing. I just cant function with 2 people trying to wear the same shoes knowing they are different sizes. I just shook my head for 1 hr..One person say this is how its done and the other person is saying no wait that's not how that goes.. I am just numb..I just want to get what i need and move on..I am not sure who bright idea this was..Its just not working for me, but what do you do. grin and bear it..hmmmmmmmmm

You know we spend so much time together, I feel like we were joined at the hips. But I have a question for you, Is it fair for you to make me think that I want a person when i really dont. I mean you are all over the place. Everything looks good in your eyes. Its hard to tell the difference. I mean do you really want him, or do you WANT him physically? Gee gosh willy..One minute I am hot and sweaty and the next i am cold and callous. You should'nt  hang around single women like that...We have nothing but time, all kinds of ideas get in our heads I am trying to get a handle on you but that's like nailing jelly to a tree.. I think you are a male in disguised. But  i wish you would stop tryna pimp me...and before I go I just want you to know My eye is on this Guy, Is he all that? or are you working overtime on me, making me think he is. and all I want is Eye Candy...What if this is true....Well Peep this: The big question of the day is ....DOES HE HAVE HIS EYES ON YOU?...Thank you

" Karen" ~.Keeping it Real ~: I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched toget... : "We all have flaws don't you think? But I try to hold it together. Something I hate about myself is I observe more than I want to. Lets say y..."

We all have flaws don't you think? But I try to hold it together. Something I hate about myself is I observe more than I want to. Lets say you had a friend and yall had been seeing each other for 3 yrs but you notice that he tryed to make me think that he had more going on than he really did. Lets say without the credit cards he couldnt even afford anything. He was retired. living on a fixed income. So he couldnt really throw a dog a bone. but thats not how he presented it.. But because i am observant I found out what i needed. and i say that to say this.. Whats wrong with being honest. I am not easily impressed by the way. This is why I have limited friends. I dont see my friends like i would like to, but when we get together we talk for hours and hours catching up on life.. This is where i am comfortable at because i have honesty. We dont have to lie about nothing. we have a moment when i ask a her are you still seeing that dude, she say yell chile..I dont even know why? lol ..we

And I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true, Today I didnt want to be kind,  Truth be told I really wanted to just scream out loud like a little child that has had her candy taken from them.. I decided to turn on my selective hearing because a lot of things I know longer wanted to hear. I really didnt want to hear about what a good time you had on vacation or how you feel at the moment. People have a habit of steping on your toes even though they know it's not a good thing. they show you that they care very little about you and your feelings. I think its a selfish act. People should consider your feelings..They shouldnt even touch on a subject that is sensitive to others. And one thing I hate most of all is talking in a round about way.. I hate that with a passion. But why should I expect anything less, I am sensitive when it comes to my feelings..Why is it so hard for people to be genuine? or do they know how? All day I been trying to suck up

The Single Life at 50: Is being single all it's crack up to be? Sometimes... : "Being Single at a certain age is good, You've been down plenty of roads, You've been there done that, But is it really all that, i would sa..."

Let me Paint a Picture for you, You like this guy and you want nothing more than to get with him, You have told him on numerous ocassions and you get no respond. HE'S JUST NOT THAT  INTO YOU. Every once in a while you flirt with a touch and he respond slightly because he has that reputation of being a Nice guy. So you figure he is in a relationship, but you dont want a relationship, you just want a cuddie buddie..No respond..HE JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. But in the back of your mind you say, he likes me, he is just playing hard ball..ok ok and then you sit and examine the whole situation and say well my hormones is all over the place.let me take a step back and see the larger picture. then you start thinking do i really want him? do i really like him..How much of this is hormonal? Because there is not a man that I know of would turn down any cookies no matter the flavor..(lol)..So you know you like him but there sits on your shoulder those 6 little words.HE JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU...an

We all know that that we block our blessings when we set out standards to high. Ok so you are interested in a professional woman, Teacher, doctor, lawyer, nurse, etc. But that might not be what God has in store for you. Sometimes our standards are so high and we only want things this way and God says well i want it this way.. So you were on your way to the top, but somehow wrench got thrown in..The company moved or closed down, Now you got to begin again forcing you to have a different attitude about things. Yet your standards are still a bit too high, Dont get me wrong I wouldnt want anybody that's poverty stricken, because if he can't meet me where i am financially i need to leave him where he's at. But never say you will never date a ghetto girl or a hood man,..You never know. God put people in our lives for a reason. He may want to see you with Shaquita, because she may be your ticket to the top.. Or Cedric who just got a promotion to Manager and McDonalds.. One thing I

Long Distance Relationships, Do they work?: Does Being Single Means You Are Available : "I am sitting here thinking about something like this. Being single doesn't necessarily means you are unattached, It just means that techinc..."

I am sitting here thinking about something like this. Being single doesn't necessarily means you are unattached, It just means that techincally you are not married. Ok which leaves this question, Can you pursue a man/woman is he/she is in a relationship with someone? or is this where we draw the line? This is where i beg the differ with you. As far as i am concern, You are single which leave the field wide open for new and better.. The question remains would I knowingly go after someone if I knew he is in a relationship. No I wouldnt. But if i didnt know but probably suspect that he is, I may, depending on if i am physically attracted to him and the type of person he appears to be, because 99.99% of the time they ususally are in a relationship. Some men are shy they may want you but they will never let you know, Some wait for you to approach them. When I want something, I go after it. Now at 50 I examine the situation where as when i was 23 if i wanted it i went for it and got

Long distance relationships, I think it only works when you are young. Like College kids, I was shocked when my son told me that he was in a long distance relationship, I thought she live in georgia like everybody we meet does. but she lives in NJ. he has visit her. I was excited for him, but do they work? I mean being so far from each other. I think because they are young, it can. But when you get my age, It dont work, because you wanting to be with him, he can't just up and come see you. He always have to make plans. What if( and we know If is a deep subject) she needs you for something, and you're not there, cant get there, well she will find somebody who can be there when she needs them. Oh sure she will keep you just in case.. But a woman wants a man close by. unless you got an understanding, then that's the only way that will work. Even with an understanding, I really dont feel like you are the only person that they see.. I think that when you call and say you are com