"Just Being Me"

When I turned 40 yrs old (that was 13 years ago) just freshly out of a divorce, I want different!! So I promised myself that I wouldn't date anybody of "Color" Because in my mind and experience Black Men was taught to have this "I'm the Man of the House Mentality" its ok to wear the pants but just don't act like you are my father!! Because truly I want you to "Be the Man" Put me in my place when need be!! Slap me around a few times..lol lol (Just kidding about the last one don't even try that on  any day that ends in "Y") mmm hmm besides sending the Police you might wanna send an ambulance or the morgue..my fav line Sling blade..lol lol Just a few laughs to take me away from the seriousness of this topic. But during the time of Divorce Saga and how it played out, I wanted different, Its funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back Everything is different..When I told most of my friend that I crossed over for a wh

No Matter How Good Of A Woman You Are, You Will Never Be Good Enough To A Man Who Isn't "Ready" How Deep is that? We don't really think about it while we are doing all we can to show our loyalty, trust, love, But once it is broken down to this level of thought, it make sense!! Sometimes we seek that which we are not yet ready to find.,When God knows you're ready for the responsibility of commitment, He'll reveal the right person under the right circumstances...Trust and Believe that!!

I woke up this morning singing God Praises, I wake up on Sunday Mornings just about the same routine I open all the blinds in the rooms I know I will be in, I put my Inspirational songs on plugged into another device so you can hear it all over the house, I have to start the morning with Isaac Carree, "Clean this house" Because I think we all need to be restored each and every day!! I was preparing to fix my breakfast, I couldn't decide what I wanted to eat, So I said I will fix some salmon grits and eggs.. As I was fixing the salmon, I am thinking about my mama Salmon, I just can't get it just like hers, no matter how many times I try. So I decided to put my own spin on it this time and I think if I tweak it enough I can get it to my taste. It hit me that we will never get it quite like Mama made it. It reminds me of how we search high and low for that woman or man in our life to be just like mama or just like my daddy, We need to re-create new memories, What if yo

No matter how old I get, I can't change who I am to please anyone.I am a great loyal friend, A great Mother to my children, A great lover to the ones who had the privilege to be my companion.I am not perfect, no one on earth holds that title. I do make mistakes, I make bad choices in friends sometimes, It doesn't take me long to correct that, I think at 40 something, We should know exactly what will make us happy in our lives and don't change it because the other person wants something different. It doesn't means your standards are high, It just means you will not settle for anything less and if you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on..Trust that you are exactly where you suppose to be, It is true that God may have called you to be exactly where you are. But, it is absolutely vital to grasp that

Sometime we go through life not realizing what we put ourselves through unnecessarily, We need to know when to fold em..  We go into relationship, friendships, or even on a new job, and we know things are not working out but we stay, hoping things will get better, we give it the benefit of the doubt and continue to try to make something good out of it, but no amount of sizzle will make a bad steak good!! What we allow is what will continue.. I am guilty, because of who I am, but I think if I get that hump out of my back and straighten by back up nobody will be able to walk all over it, ya think?..Where do I draw the line? Do I treat people the way that they treat me or do I rise above the little things that seems big to me!! Don't you sometimes wish that you can start over and begin again? Like Brand New Me (Alicia Keys) Clean this House( Isaac Carree), We do have control  over how we act, Its hard to reposition yourself sometimes, you can often change our circumstances by changi

My Grand Poo-Pee Well, Its a New Year, 2012 is out, I left all of that behind me, They say Time flies but  it never travels faster than one day at a time.. I learned a lot about people and where their heart lies, forgiveness, Very few people don't know that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, its unlocking the door to set someone free and realizing you were the prisoner..I think we hold on to things to long, and it shackles us to it..Life is just too short to hold grudges, Our hearts are not in the right place, We should treat people the way we want to be treated, We should love with all our hearts and stop pretending.. We need to get out of relationships that's not working for us. Is it really fair to the other person that you are in a relationship that is meaningless if you are still lonely? You need to just walk away, You're not happy, you are settling, that's not good. You should not be with anybody that you don't have anything in common with, We need c