"Just Being Me"

How are you today? Better than yesterday "That's a good way to be; not better than anyone else, just better than you were. Do you feel that small act of Kindness I just presented to you? hmmmmmmm Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end..So here we a re again, One of these old days you will learn how to act. Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you, he likes you. Never try to cut your own bangs and someday, you'll meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, every story we're told, implores to us wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule that sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't. The ones who'll stay from the ones who'll leave. Maybe this happy ending doesn't

Mondays is just one of those days of the week that shouldn't even be on the calendar, I can be off on Mondays and Tuesday would feel just like it..It just should be a legal Holiday..ok ok So everyday should be Friday so we wish..I get up and get ready for work, and instantly I hate everybody, Everything they are saying is foreign.let alone they are talking in a round about way..and the worse part is looking into the person face that you dreamed about the night before it don't matter what the dream was about it just feel like that person violated you in some way..““On Monday mornings I am dedicated to the proposition that all people are created jerks..I just can't help it. Yep Sounds like I has a case of the Mondays I’ve come to the conclusion that Mondays last 50% longer than the other days Monday is a lame way to spend 1/7 of your life...but as i think about it.. It don't matter how many days i get off it's not long enough..and no matter what day i go back to work

The start of the New Year is a perfect time to start a stop doing list and to make this the cornerstone of your New Year resolutions, be it for your company, your family or yourself. It also is a perfect time to clarify your three circles, mirroring at a personal level the three questions: 1) What are you deeply passionate about? 2)Do you need a Career Change.3) What Love Got To Do With It..I am Deeply passionate about Being the best that I can be..and I really feel that I suppose to be doing something other than what I am doing. I know that for a fact. This year is not gone yet but I decided to stop focusing on Love and looking for a man. I mean if somebody wants to spend some time with me, that's fine and if not that's fine too. It's too exhausting. It's like trying to Nail Jelly To A Tree, My heart is on Vacation,( I can hear the scarecrow singing from the wizard of oz, if i only had a heart) What is meant for you, is already written any way. I can't say that I w

I don't know how love could do this to me.. ...There must be a lesson for me to learn If you don't trust in love, you'll get nothing in return Why should I be lonely, don't tell me it's fine I have my pride, but I'd rather be with you tonight.(lyrics from Luther Vandross song "Every year Every Christmas").Best Christmas love song ever... I think a lot of us feel that way not only this time of the year, but all year round..Some people come into our lives, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never the same..When you want something, something so true and pure, something that deep in your heart you know it's worth risking, then one must follow that path. But like any other path, there are obstacles, there are hardships, there will be sacrifices. One has to constantly question whether this path is worth traveling and how far along the path we must go... the choice is ours.Think with your heart, intuition is greater than logic.When you want someth

Most people say Silence is the mother of truth and There are times when silence has the loudest voice. Have you even been where you don't know what to say, so you say nothing or you've said so much you have nothing else left to say?..I always begin my prayer in silence, for it is in the silence of the heart that God speaks. God is the friend of silence—we need to listen to God because it's not what we say but what He says to us and through us that matters. Most of the time we hear what we want to hear. I keep saying I will wait on God to guide my steps, but i get impatient and plow past him everytime, and i gets no where.I have made a fool of myself over and over again..and I keep saying why do you keep doing that? But God knows me better than i know myself. He knows my heart. He knows what i am going to do or say even before I open my mouth.Have you ever tryed talking to someone that won't say anything? you don't know if they are listening or not, That is one of th

It's ok to learn from our past. But to keep harboring the past gets you no where,The past should not be followed after,and the future not desired;what is past is dead and gone,and the future is yet to come. If you are feeling bad about something that you have done in your past, remember this, "You can't be who you are today, without being who you were in the past. Ok So you had a bad marriage a bad relationship or a bad job. but who haven't I mean bring the past only if you are going to build from it..I see people scared to do anything because they are afraid of making the same mistakes they made in the past. but we are not perfect, being perfect don't exist. I made plenty of mistakes and some of the same ones more than once, but when you know better you do better We need not destroy the past.  It is gone. Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions

I know there are no good men else where, but I have always lived in the "A" No I haven't visited other states, Why can't I find him here?. There may be some good men out there, some are damaged goods. Because although he is a good man he had a mucked up woman that treated him like crap so he figured every woman will do that. The over protective walls go up, but the same walls you put up to keep people out is the same wall that's keeping joy out. Why do the the no good women get the nice men?.. I never understood that., and I never will. I mean what tha Hell Happened?..Maybe I need to go to the Dry Cleaners..These men have jobs and usually bathe...lol..I don't know why Men waste their time lying they dont do it very well no way..I know women may fake orgasm, but men fake a whole damn relationship..If you have men who will only come if they know there is a good road, I don't want them. I want men who will come if there is no road at all..It takes a woman twe

Do You ever get tired of playing second fiddle to everything, Are you the woman that always have to take a back seat to everything? No matter if you are in a relationship with a man with kids married with step kids and ex wives, or His career comes first and when he's done you can't start your life..or wait till things get better to do this or that. B.S. is what it is called..The reason lightning doesn't strike twice in the same place is that the same place isn't there the second time... There is no second place when it comes to my life. I use to sit back and wait for people to make up thier minds about everything.. I put my education on hold while I raised two boys all on my own, while thier father went on got his education degrees. i went on and got married years later to a man that had an ex with kids..I took at back seat while the drama unfolded while he feels guilty for leaving them so he would make up for it and just bankrupt our household. Its crazy the shyt we w

You will be making your rounds in another week, So you forgot where I live Huh? You know we broke up right? I mean really How many promises are you going to break? You know Promises are like crying babies in a theater, they should be carried out at once... I am not materialistic, I could ask you for a IPad, and a Sprint Evo, But Nooooo, I sat on your lap(which was a mistake by the way). because you been trying to pimp a sista out. but all i ask for was a good man. you just send me a piece of a man stitched together. He has this but not that.or he is good at this but he knows nothing. I didnt ask for perfect. Nobody is Perfect..that's why pencils have erasers. but how hard is it to find a really good man. Is it because there are not any the reason why you sending just a man, or do you think you are the one? What about Mrs. Claus? You are a very married man, and i don't want nobody elses man..yea yea I been there done that, but you know I was young and stupid..I grew up, that was

Let's explore this for a minute,..Our public self and private self..Some of us let who we are to the world take over who you are to your friends. At some point You need to tear down that wall of protection you put up, Your game face has become your only face. What about the people who really cares about you who are being left in the dark about how you really feel. There is no perfect time to start a relationship or a career or anything for that matter. You just do it.. Some people have a reputation of missing their blessings. Waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel? Well stride down there and light the damn thing yourself! Ok so, You are waiting to make more money, That may never happen, No No, you are waiting on that Perfect Job, or that perfect woman to just appear out of no where..Right Right.. Opportunity knocks at the strangest times, It's not the time that matters But how you answer the door..Our lives improve only when we take chances - and the first and most diff

That's a good question, But really its not a fair question. You can be in a relationship and still be lonely..But I refuse to do that again I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until finally I became that person. Or she became me. Although most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be..My family take up the slack for not having a man around..I have a big family, But the cold winter nights.. who among us does not choose to be a little less right to be a little less lonely...I try not to entertain that too much..I am a Chestnut roasting on an open fire type chick..It's really not that serious, If I wanted to just be with somebody I could. But I have gotten too old to Just be with somebody. I just about know what I want, to be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness, Discipline is remembering what you want, but Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. When I think about it, I've been lonely for quite

Just because you think you found the right person for you, doesn’t always mean that they feel you are the right person for them. That’s the challenge and the risk of opening up to someone, allowing yourself to become comfortable, even fall in love. And then one can ask and question, “I’m here, but you’re not? Where did you go left & I went right?” You can’t dial down feelings and we can’t turn back time. We can hope, even pray, that these intense feelings, desires & passions for that person, will subside if denied. That the ache in the heart will go away, that it will be filled with some other feeling, other than the love & happiness it once possessed. And then there’s the fear. The fear that if you close that door, that you will never allow it be reopened, even for that ‘imperfect’ perfect person, shall they discover that you are the one later in time. So you say to yourself, “Ok, I know the circumstances, I know they will never change, no matter how sincere the words.” So

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, You have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, You are trampling on my feelings When I ask you to listen to me And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, You have failed me, as strange as that may seem. All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do – just listen to me. Talk is cheap: 50 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper And I can do for myself: I am not helpless, Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, You contribute to my fear and weakness. But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, No matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to And get about the business of Understanding what is behind this irrational feeling. And when that is clear, the answers are obvious And I don’t need advice. Irrational f

You know I consider myself as a really nice person and get along with everybody. I treat people way better than they treat me. I give credit where credit is due.I may give some a little bit more attention than i give others, But that's just who I am. If i am physically attracted to you then I am more likely to give you more of my attention and you might be the one that soak up all my energy. but like everything else, that gets old too. Don't expect others to treat you better than they treat themselves.  If you choose to deal with them (or must), it is best to come from a place of compassion toward their ignorance and lack of love.  Be solid enough to deal with it or step back to work on yourself first..How other's treat me is their path ~ how I respond is mine.I just refuse to be ignored, some people treat you as if you are not there.They talk in a round about way.( and that's something I hate with a passion) Most of them never ever say what's really on their minds

Taking one foot and putting it in front of the other, that is the only way to travel forward...If however you take steps forward whilst looking backward; well -then you will fall over because you end up tripping over something you would easily have seen if looking where you were going in the first place. So, when looking back just stay still for a moment, allow yourself to reflect, but then you must at some point turn around and just keep moving - or you will stagnant on the spot which means going nowhere at all.I try not to ever look back because when you do, you'll go right back..Whether you want it to or not, life goes on.. We spend too much time dwelling on the possibilty that things may get better if we just do this.or that. I am just tired of doing the same old things. same routine, same everything. I need something different, I need some changes somewhere. At some point even flirting gets old..It's just attention without intentions...OR IS IT?.We miss our blessings when

Why should I care what other people think of me? I am who I am. And who I wanna be...Who I'm not makes me who I am.I am good to people who are good.I am also good to people who are not good. Because Virtue is goodness. If I Really Cared. Who you are would be more important to me than who I am.  Where you hurt would be more important than that I'm well.  What you feel would be more important than what I know. I'd look you in the eyes when you talk to me; I'd think about what you're saying rather than what I'm going to say next, I'd hear your feelings as well as your words.  I'd listen without defending. I'd hear without deciding whether you are right or wrong. I'd ask you why and how, not just when and where.  I'd laugh with you but not at you I'd talk with you and not to you, and I'd know when it's time to do neither.  I wouldn't climb over your walls.  I'd wait until you let me in the gate.  I wouldn't unlock your sec

You've trained yourself to face reality. You've trained yourself to tell the truth. You've trained yourself to tell it like it is. So in the beginning, these fantasies feel a little inappropriate, because it's like you're fooling yourself. Sometimes people will say, "Well, isn't this just denial?" And we say, we hope so! We hope that you are denying the absence that you do not want. And we hope that you are embracing the presence of what you do. But somehow the idea of denial has become a dirty word to you; like it is virtuous to face the reality of the horror of your own lives. And we would be ignoring anything that did not please us. We would get our eyes on what feels good. Opinion is a denial of truth. For if each man is entitled to his own opinion then there can be nothing which is false, consequently there can be nothing which is true either.I think we all go into this stage where we just dont want to know what the truth is. I ask some one. Well,

So what you ain't perfect. You will never be perfect, neither will I. Not because it isn't possible. In our heads, we will all reach some sort of perfection. But simply because it doesn't exist. Sometimes... when you hold out for everything, you walk away with nothing and When you aim for perfection, you discover it's a moving target..There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, where they do that at? Perfect love is rare indeed -for to be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist,the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain. so get over trying to be the perfect person or looking for that perfect man, Just trying being who you are. I am perfect just the way I am and just the way I am not. please beleive..

When I first heard of the movie "For Colored Girls" I got so excited.  I had the idea of getting as many women together that I could think of to go see this movie.  I had visions of group discussions and moments shared with one another that would lead to healing and growth; I guess I kind of imagined a Women’s Empowerment Conference type of setting. Well after I shared my idea with a few women, reality set in and I  realized that so many of us wouldn't be willing to participate for various reasons: You don't like me, you don't care for somebody I might invite, you only hang out with certain people, you don't understand the big deal about Tyler Perry making yet another movie about black people and our issues for all the world to see, you don't like crowds, so n so is too ghetto, such and such is too uppity  etc... It has ALWAYS amazed me that we as black women are each others biggest critics.  We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each others

Where is the boundary between your thoughts and feelings and my thoughts and feelings?  Where does it end, maybe there's a possibility we as human beings are more connected to one another than we realize.Run your fingers through my soul. For once, just once, feel exactly what I feel, believe what I believe, perceive as I perceive, look, experience, examine, and for once, just once, understand .Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all of you are beyond the pain.,but as we know it only in an open, nonjudgmental space can we acknowledge what we are feeling. Only in an open space where we're not all caught up in our own version of reality can we see and hear and feel who others really are, which allows us to be with them and communicate with them properly.When you understand that what most people really want is simply to feel good about themse

The word Compete sounds so much like a game. What's the name of this game? and what does the winner really gets? Why would I compete to hold on to a man? I don't want to compete I don't suppose to be in the game. It almost feel like you are chasing something.  Its a lot of competition out there and there will always be. It always happen when you get married or in a relationship that the women and men be on the prowl. Lets be honest, men  and women are more interesting when he/she is married or in a relationship.I played the game. Competition doesn't create character, it exposes it.Imagine a man  really in love: he won't waste time speculating whether other women equally merit his affection. I think men like it when women push up on them. even the flirting can get out of hand. its the gentle art of making a man feel pleased with himself,  If women are doing what they suppose to do, making thier spouses happy I see no reason why it should be a competition with the o

IN THIS LIFE IT'S EITHER YOU LOVE ME AND ACCEPT ME FOR ME OR YOU HATE ME THERE IS NO IN BETWEEN.. There is a risk involved in everything Every time you share a smile Every time you shed a tear You are opening yourself up to hurt. Some people tread slowly through life,Avoiding the closeness risk brings,Side-stepping the things they can't understand Turning away from those who care too much, Those who care stay too long,Those who hold too tightly, There is never an easy way to love You can not approach it cautiously It will not wait for you to arm yourself.It does not care if you turn away It is everywhere, it is everything. In the name of love, how much love is lost? To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness (robert brault). ..Love is, above all, the gift of oneself....and then there are those days when want to say Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate! 

I shall never fear or avoid things of which I do not know.. I do know that you block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith. there is a time to take councel of your fears and there are times when to never listen to any fear. Desire is the need to add something to yourself in order to be yourself fully. Can we seperate wants from desires? Lust from Love or like? After a few (or many) bad relationships, it's so easy to shut down, give up, and stop believing that the right person is out there for us. Our hearts yearn to fall in love, but our minds insist it's not possible, and we enter into a tug-of-war with ourselves. It's as if one part of us is screaming, "Yes! I deserve a great relationship!" while another part insists, "I'll never find him or her." When our beliefs contradict our desires, we experience an inner conflict that not only paralyzes us, but can actually prevent us from recognizing the possibilities for love th

I may not be the one you asked for. I may not be the one you expect. I am however, the one who was sent. A lot of people don't know how that works. God put people in our lives for a reason. some are just passing thru and some stay a while. and some are there to teach us some life lessons.Our lives are filled with doorways. We call them transitions. They each take us to a new adventures. Some doorways appear to hold us back but when we later remember them, we find that they actually moved us forward, we just weren't aware of it at the time. Some people learn from their mistakes, others avoid making many mistakes by learning from the mistakes of others. We always wonder why we are here, or why this person came into our lives, well everthing happens for a reason. We do things to try to avoid what's going on in our lives, but our lives have already been written, but we try to change it because this is not what we want.. Souls do not need to be saved. Egos need clarification. In

Karen's Reality: ~Nuthin But a Collective Hunch~: Flirting....Attention without Intention.. : "Hmmmmmmm..or the art of keeping intimacy at a safe distance.I flirt maybe more than i can care to count a day, Because I am single, I feel l..."

Hmmmmmmm..or the art of keeping intimacy at a safe distance.I flirt maybe more than i can care to count a day, Because I am single, I feel like I can do this, but where do we draw the line?..Would i flirt with a married man? Not intentionally, Would I flirt with a Single man, Why of course Only if I am physically attracted to him. Does it matters if he's in a relationship, Well....you know..If he is in a relationship and he loves the one he's with..It shouldnt matter what i say right? In my mind, He's just a single guy. meaning not married. But i dont do that often. Flirting is the art of making a man feel pleased with himself. I flirt sometimes knowing and sometimes i dont know until later that's what i was doing. If you are physically attracted to somebody it dont mean you want them all the time, it means that you are attracted to them. Some women flirt more with what they say, and some with what they do...I dont make a career out of it. Flirting is a lot like fashion

I think we as women deserve a Mental Health Day at least once a month and on a Monday..A desire to be in charge of our own lives, a need for control, is born in each of us. It is essential to our mental health, and our success, that we take control.The key to both mental and physical health is not to mourn the past, anticipate trouble, or worry about the future; but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.A day to visit ourselves..There are two kinds of satisfaction or happiness:  one mainly through mental peace;  another physical comfort. They say Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness..hmmmm that maybe true in some form. How I take care of myself mentally, emotionally, and physically is a reflection of my spiritual evolution.. 

The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about,.Who is to judge one flower to be a weed and another to be a delight? The weed was a delight unto itself before judgment arrived. Now it is rejected, deprived of love and must spread to be noticed..Often times we get hung up on what people are saying about another.We never stop to ask or to get to know a person. and nine times out of 10 we think we are too good for them anyway..There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance.. I think that Fear always springs from ignorance. We allow our ignorance to prevail upon us and make us think we can survive alone, alone in patches, alone in groups, alone in races, even alone in genders.And as Martin Luther King always said...Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity..real talk

We ... tend to evaluate others on the basis of physical, outward appearance: their "good looks," their social status, their family pedigrees, their degrees, or their economic situations. The Lord, however, has a different standard by which he measures a person. When it came time to choose a king to replace King Saul, the Lord gave this criteria to his prophet Samuel .for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.Our true beauty is defined by our soul; our appearance is just a camouflage we use to hide our true beauty, our true identity..I still give importance to appearance, although I came across some idiots very well dressed..I think I am one of those who can manage not to take on a completely different appearance under their own glance.Our lives are filled with doorways. We call them transitions. They each take us to a new adventures. Some doorways appear to hold us back but when we later remember them, we find that they actually moved us f

We must be our own before we can be another's. All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was.  I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory.  I was naïve.  I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer.  It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with:  that I am nobody but myself. We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.Learn to... be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not..The question still remains in my head from time to time, Am I  intelligent enough to understand myself?

Age is a number which puts us in chronological order of time.  Age does not have to dictate how old we feel or act.I do not feel any age yet. There is no age to the spirit. I am sitting here in my Kitchen looking out the window, not looking at anything in particular.. the birds, ducks leaves falling, my 5 yr old granddaughter reminded me to look at the leaves changing colors.  While i was sitting in the chair, I am aware that 3 other chairs is empty. I thought back when one was not empty a friend use to sit there. It crosses my mind everytime i sit there, that how is it two people can be so different. I mean our lives took off in a whole other direction.what a difference 30 yrs makes. I had known him when i was in my twenties, we broke up and never to look back untill 3 yrs ago i called him up..thinking that we can catch up and pick up where we left off. but people change and so the thier way of living. He had a head full of gray hair..he didnt look his age but older. I didnt know if i

Can you relate to that statement? Is it true? I most def can't relate to people with millions. Can I relate to the poor? Yes I can, even though at the time I didnt no the definition of poor, I was too young to know that we was scaping the bottom of the barrel. Yea there was some who had more food, better clothes, We ate free lunch, back then that was being poor. How do you think i felt when i heard somebody say, my mama gave your mama that dress for you to wear. I hate because i can remember the tinest little details of every inch of my life..Can i relate to people with millions? No!! never had anything remotely close to a million. People with millions only hang with people with millions or more. They never go outside thier cirlce of friends.  So how do you expect to be friends..You have to already have been friends before you can get to that stage.Does equal means financially? or does it means Physically, emotionally, really its hard to tell what it means or how you enterpet it,,

My mind tells me to give up, but my heart won't let me...Everybody knows that feeling right? Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with those who are reckless with yours. You're meant to have whatever your heart desires. Whatever your heart wants that much is already a part of you. but The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers. This we know is true.If your head tells you one thing and your heart tells you another, before you do anything, you should first decide whether you have a better head or a better heart..I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am.

This past week, popular preacher, recording artist and pastor, Donnie McClurkin, went on record to declare his deep disappointment with what he sees as pastoral abuses in the body of Christ. His comments have raised a legitimate question about abuse and excesses in the body of Christ and has brought attention to a topic that has largely been ignored in the church community. In an article appearing in Essence this past week Pastor McClurkin is quoted as saying: "As pastors, we have to link arms and have bi-partisanships. The [Black] church has always been the face of the community. Now we have to take on the responsibility of becoming true servants to the people from all walks of life. I get so mad when I see these pimpin' preachers driving Rolls-Royces, Bentleys, flying around in their private jets, and making it seem like prosperity and money is the way of God when 90 percent of your congregation is on Section 8 or can't figure out how they are going to k

This is one powerful statement, It goes thru me everytime i read it..Because we are always wanting things we can't have..but the things we have goes unnoticed.You have always fought against your dreams, and 'I want' has never even shown its face.  It was always drowned out by 'I must' or 'I hope' or 'I need.When you learn not to want things so badly, life comes to you.. This is one of those day where I am all over the place. My mind is stuck wondering How did i get to the point where everything i am doing I've outgrown. I have tryed a lot of things and the only thing that gave me that natural high was when i had by own business. I think I want to get back to that point..That would be a good start. I am single (by choice). so I dont have to have a second opinion.I must do me. Who don't want to be loved? I have not gotten to that point yet.. I have to get rid of the desires and wants that i have..m y mind wants to interpret All my dreams.My heart w

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves When you change the way you think, you will change the way you feel. When you change the way you feel, you will change the way you act. When you change the way you act, you will change the way you live. When you change the way you live, you will change your world ..Everyday we deal with people with different attitudes, some talk in a round about way, some who may or may not speak to you  for what ever reason.and then you have the ones who will lie on point. those are the career liars and then there are those who thinks the sun rises and sets with them in it...oooo la la...then you have the gossip trolls, remember this Whoever gossips to you will gossip about you...Its when you start finding out things about yourself that things begin to change for you. I really never cared what people think about me, nor will i ever. but only when my feelings get thrown under the bus and ran over do i start taken no

You are not the roles that you play.But you do play them, and they do have real consequences.Why do we always have to stay in the same mode all the time. I see most people are stuck on image.always in that professional mode. They want people to look at them in the same way all the time. I am very sure you dont live that way, because at the end of the day, You are who you pretend to be. I think the older we get the worse we become. We miss out on a lot because we have set our standards so high.The quality of an individual is reflected in the standards they set for themselves..Some individuals have developed such strong internal standards that they no longer need the opinion of others to judge whether they have performed a task well or not..Its ok to have standards but not at a level where they cant be met. You notice how we pick a person apart because they dont meet that list you have. but that doesnt mean that's not the right person for you. Everybody wont be perfect."dont get

  A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. No matter how old they get, My 20 yr old decided to get on a plane and go New Jersery to see his girlfriend. Well that was a first for him and me. He wanted to do this alone. His first trip his father drove him up i was ok with that, But when he told me he wanted to fly alone my mind went to the another zone. First of all we never had a long distance relationship, we always dated someone from where we lived. but this was a first in the family..We never stop being a parent. I hear folk say, well he is grown, Well technically yes, But he is still my child. I am still trying to show him the right way to do things. The worse thing anybody body can give me is advice on how to be a parent and you dont have any children, there is nothing you will be able to tell me, all the books in the world still wont get you anywhere with me. That was the only thing I didnt like about Oprah when she had a show on children, oh su

How important it is to like somebody? I've always wondered  if the people I like, likes me. I never ask them. But now at my age Why would I ask.  I've ask at least once. and that was because I heard they didnt. and the first thing that comes to our minds is Well, if they dont like me, I dont like them, Hmmmm that's just so elementary.. If a person dont like me I ask why? Just for GP . It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about. For the last 3 weeks I have been Flirting like crazy, and i dont even really like some of the guys I flirt with..But at the end of the day, What exactly did I accomplish my leading them on? Well I can say this, Its getting me in more trouble..because at some point I will have to explain it....like is most important...fo'sho

Have you ever met a person that appears to have the heart of stone?. You can ask them something and they never ever give you a straight answer. They never want you to know what they are thinking. You confide in them and you tell them your dreams and what you want, and they never react. I think that's being cold and callous. Is it past history that keeps us from keeping real with everybody? Or that if i do this they will take advanage of my feelings. Wow..What a concept. When we are at our jobs daily, we put on a front. We dont like everybody we work with but we put on face. well expected. But at the end of the day. Who tha hell are you? The hardest thing in life is to have words in your heart you can't utter. That happens to me more now than ever. Things keep me from saying what i want to say. You how you just want to walk up to a person and just say what you feel and let the chips fall where they may..  be it good or bad..Today I went on a limb(and i do that sometimes) and ask