"Just Being Me"

How are you today? Better than yesterday "That's a good way to be; not better than anyone else, just better than you were. Do you feel that small act of Kindness I just presented to you? hmmmmmmm Remember there's no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end..So here we a re again, One of these old days you will learn how to act. Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you, he likes you. Never try to cut your own bangs and someday, you'll meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, every story we're told, implores to us wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule that sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't. The ones who'll stay from the ones who'll leave. Maybe this happy ending doesn't

Mondays is just one of those days of the week that shouldn't even be on the calendar, I can be off on Mondays and Tuesday would feel just like it..It just should be a legal Holiday..ok ok So everyday should be Friday so we wish..I get up and get ready for work, and instantly I hate everybody, Everything they are saying is foreign.let alone they are talking in a round about way..and the worse part is looking into the person face that you dreamed about the night before it don't matter what the dream was about it just feel like that person violated you in some way..““On Monday mornings I am dedicated to the proposition that all people are created jerks..I just can't help it. Yep Sounds like I has a case of the Mondays I’ve come to the conclusion that Mondays last 50% longer than the other days Monday is a lame way to spend 1/7 of your life...but as i think about it.. It don't matter how many days i get off it's not long enough..and no matter what day i go back to work

The start of the New Year is a perfect time to start a stop doing list and to make this the cornerstone of your New Year resolutions, be it for your company, your family or yourself. It also is a perfect time to clarify your three circles, mirroring at a personal level the three questions: 1) What are you deeply passionate about? 2)Do you need a Career Change.3) What Love Got To Do With It..I am Deeply passionate about Being the best that I can be..and I really feel that I suppose to be doing something other than what I am doing. I know that for a fact. This year is not gone yet but I decided to stop focusing on Love and looking for a man. I mean if somebody wants to spend some time with me, that's fine and if not that's fine too. It's too exhausting. It's like trying to Nail Jelly To A Tree, My heart is on Vacation,( I can hear the scarecrow singing from the wizard of oz, if i only had a heart) What is meant for you, is already written any way. I can't say that I w

I don't know how love could do this to me.. ...There must be a lesson for me to learn If you don't trust in love, you'll get nothing in return Why should I be lonely, don't tell me it's fine I have my pride, but I'd rather be with you tonight.(lyrics from Luther Vandross song "Every year Every Christmas").Best Christmas love song ever... I think a lot of us feel that way not only this time of the year, but all year round..Some people come into our lives, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never the same..When you want something, something so true and pure, something that deep in your heart you know it's worth risking, then one must follow that path. But like any other path, there are obstacles, there are hardships, there will be sacrifices. One has to constantly question whether this path is worth traveling and how far along the path we must go... the choice is ours.Think with your heart, intuition is greater than logic.When you want someth

Most people say Silence is the mother of truth and There are times when silence has the loudest voice. Have you even been where you don't know what to say, so you say nothing or you've said so much you have nothing else left to say?..I always begin my prayer in silence, for it is in the silence of the heart that God speaks. God is the friend of silence—we need to listen to God because it's not what we say but what He says to us and through us that matters. Most of the time we hear what we want to hear. I keep saying I will wait on God to guide my steps, but i get impatient and plow past him everytime, and i gets no where.I have made a fool of myself over and over again..and I keep saying why do you keep doing that? But God knows me better than i know myself. He knows my heart. He knows what i am going to do or say even before I open my mouth.Have you ever tryed talking to someone that won't say anything? you don't know if they are listening or not, That is one of th

It's ok to learn from our past. But to keep harboring the past gets you no where,The past should not be followed after,and the future not desired;what is past is dead and gone,and the future is yet to come. If you are feeling bad about something that you have done in your past, remember this, "You can't be who you are today, without being who you were in the past. Ok So you had a bad marriage a bad relationship or a bad job. but who haven't I mean bring the past only if you are going to build from it..I see people scared to do anything because they are afraid of making the same mistakes they made in the past. but we are not perfect, being perfect don't exist. I made plenty of mistakes and some of the same ones more than once, but when you know better you do better We need not destroy the past.  It is gone. Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions

I know there are no good men else where, but I have always lived in the "A" No I haven't visited other states, Why can't I find him here?. There may be some good men out there, some are damaged goods. Because although he is a good man he had a mucked up woman that treated him like crap so he figured every woman will do that. The over protective walls go up, but the same walls you put up to keep people out is the same wall that's keeping joy out. Why do the the no good women get the nice men?.. I never understood that., and I never will. I mean what tha Hell Happened?..Maybe I need to go to the Dry Cleaners..These men have jobs and usually bathe...lol..I don't know why Men waste their time lying they dont do it very well no way..I know women may fake orgasm, but men fake a whole damn relationship..If you have men who will only come if they know there is a good road, I don't want them. I want men who will come if there is no road at all..It takes a woman twe

Do You ever get tired of playing second fiddle to everything, Are you the woman that always have to take a back seat to everything? No matter if you are in a relationship with a man with kids married with step kids and ex wives, or His career comes first and when he's done you can't start your life..or wait till things get better to do this or that. B.S. is what it is called..The reason lightning doesn't strike twice in the same place is that the same place isn't there the second time... There is no second place when it comes to my life. I use to sit back and wait for people to make up thier minds about everything.. I put my education on hold while I raised two boys all on my own, while thier father went on got his education degrees. i went on and got married years later to a man that had an ex with kids..I took at back seat while the drama unfolded while he feels guilty for leaving them so he would make up for it and just bankrupt our household. Its crazy the shyt we w

You will be making your rounds in another week, So you forgot where I live Huh? You know we broke up right? I mean really How many promises are you going to break? You know Promises are like crying babies in a theater, they should be carried out at once... I am not materialistic, I could ask you for a IPad, and a Sprint Evo, But Nooooo, I sat on your lap(which was a mistake by the way). because you been trying to pimp a sista out. but all i ask for was a good man. you just send me a piece of a man stitched together. He has this but not that.or he is good at this but he knows nothing. I didnt ask for perfect. Nobody is Perfect..that's why pencils have erasers. but how hard is it to find a really good man. Is it because there are not any the reason why you sending just a man, or do you think you are the one? What about Mrs. Claus? You are a very married man, and i don't want nobody elses man..yea yea I been there done that, but you know I was young and stupid..I grew up, that was

Let's explore this for a minute,..Our public self and private self..Some of us let who we are to the world take over who you are to your friends. At some point You need to tear down that wall of protection you put up, Your game face has become your only face. What about the people who really cares about you who are being left in the dark about how you really feel. There is no perfect time to start a relationship or a career or anything for that matter. You just do it.. Some people have a reputation of missing their blessings. Waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel? Well stride down there and light the damn thing yourself! Ok so, You are waiting to make more money, That may never happen, No No, you are waiting on that Perfect Job, or that perfect woman to just appear out of no where..Right Right.. Opportunity knocks at the strangest times, It's not the time that matters But how you answer the door..Our lives improve only when we take chances - and the first and most diff

That's a good question, But really its not a fair question. You can be in a relationship and still be lonely..But I refuse to do that again I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until finally I became that person. Or she became me. Although most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be..My family take up the slack for not having a man around..I have a big family, But the cold winter nights.. who among us does not choose to be a little less right to be a little less lonely...I try not to entertain that too much..I am a Chestnut roasting on an open fire type chick..It's really not that serious, If I wanted to just be with somebody I could. But I have gotten too old to Just be with somebody. I just about know what I want, to be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness, Discipline is remembering what you want, but Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. When I think about it, I've been lonely for quite

Just because you think you found the right person for you, doesn’t always mean that they feel you are the right person for them. That’s the challenge and the risk of opening up to someone, allowing yourself to become comfortable, even fall in love. And then one can ask and question, “I’m here, but you’re not? Where did you go left & I went right?” You can’t dial down feelings and we can’t turn back time. We can hope, even pray, that these intense feelings, desires & passions for that person, will subside if denied. That the ache in the heart will go away, that it will be filled with some other feeling, other than the love & happiness it once possessed. And then there’s the fear. The fear that if you close that door, that you will never allow it be reopened, even for that ‘imperfect’ perfect person, shall they discover that you are the one later in time. So you say to yourself, “Ok, I know the circumstances, I know they will never change, no matter how sincere the words.” So

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, You have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, You are trampling on my feelings When I ask you to listen to me And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, You have failed me, as strange as that may seem. All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do – just listen to me. Talk is cheap: 50 cents will get you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper And I can do for myself: I am not helpless, Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, You contribute to my fear and weakness. But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, No matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to And get about the business of Understanding what is behind this irrational feeling. And when that is clear, the answers are obvious And I don’t need advice. Irrational f