"Just Being Me"

You know I consider myself as a really nice person and get along with everybody. I treat people way better than they treat me. I give credit where credit is due.I may give some a little bit more attention than i give others, But that's just who I am. If i am physically attracted to you then I am more likely to give you more of my attention and you might be the one that soak up all my energy. but like everything else, that gets old too. Don't expect others to treat you better than they treat themselves.  If you choose to deal with them (or must), it is best to come from a place of compassion toward their ignorance and lack of love.  Be solid enough to deal with it or step back to work on yourself first..How other's treat me is their path ~ how I respond is mine.I just refuse to be ignored, some people treat you as if you are not there.They talk in a round about way.( and that's something I hate with a passion) Most of them never ever say what's really on their minds

Taking one foot and putting it in front of the other, that is the only way to travel forward...If however you take steps forward whilst looking backward; well -then you will fall over because you end up tripping over something you would easily have seen if looking where you were going in the first place. So, when looking back just stay still for a moment, allow yourself to reflect, but then you must at some point turn around and just keep moving - or you will stagnant on the spot which means going nowhere at all.I try not to ever look back because when you do, you'll go right back..Whether you want it to or not, life goes on.. We spend too much time dwelling on the possibilty that things may get better if we just do this.or that. I am just tired of doing the same old things. same routine, same everything. I need something different, I need some changes somewhere. At some point even flirting gets old..It's just attention without intentions...OR IS IT?.We miss our blessings when

Why should I care what other people think of me? I am who I am. And who I wanna be...Who I'm not makes me who I am.I am good to people who are good.I am also good to people who are not good. Because Virtue is goodness. If I Really Cared. Who you are would be more important to me than who I am.  Where you hurt would be more important than that I'm well.  What you feel would be more important than what I know. I'd look you in the eyes when you talk to me; I'd think about what you're saying rather than what I'm going to say next, I'd hear your feelings as well as your words.  I'd listen without defending. I'd hear without deciding whether you are right or wrong. I'd ask you why and how, not just when and where.  I'd laugh with you but not at you I'd talk with you and not to you, and I'd know when it's time to do neither.  I wouldn't climb over your walls.  I'd wait until you let me in the gate.  I wouldn't unlock your sec

You've trained yourself to face reality. You've trained yourself to tell the truth. You've trained yourself to tell it like it is. So in the beginning, these fantasies feel a little inappropriate, because it's like you're fooling yourself. Sometimes people will say, "Well, isn't this just denial?" And we say, we hope so! We hope that you are denying the absence that you do not want. And we hope that you are embracing the presence of what you do. But somehow the idea of denial has become a dirty word to you; like it is virtuous to face the reality of the horror of your own lives. And we would be ignoring anything that did not please us. We would get our eyes on what feels good. Opinion is a denial of truth. For if each man is entitled to his own opinion then there can be nothing which is false, consequently there can be nothing which is true either.I think we all go into this stage where we just dont want to know what the truth is. I ask some one. Well,

So what you ain't perfect. You will never be perfect, neither will I. Not because it isn't possible. In our heads, we will all reach some sort of perfection. But simply because it doesn't exist. Sometimes... when you hold out for everything, you walk away with nothing and When you aim for perfection, you discover it's a moving target..There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, where they do that at? Perfect love is rare indeed -for to be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist,the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain. so get over trying to be the perfect person or looking for that perfect man, Just trying being who you are. I am perfect just the way I am and just the way I am not. please beleive..

When I first heard of the movie "For Colored Girls" I got so excited.  I had the idea of getting as many women together that I could think of to go see this movie.  I had visions of group discussions and moments shared with one another that would lead to healing and growth; I guess I kind of imagined a Women’s Empowerment Conference type of setting. Well after I shared my idea with a few women, reality set in and I  realized that so many of us wouldn't be willing to participate for various reasons: You don't like me, you don't care for somebody I might invite, you only hang out with certain people, you don't understand the big deal about Tyler Perry making yet another movie about black people and our issues for all the world to see, you don't like crowds, so n so is too ghetto, such and such is too uppity  etc... It has ALWAYS amazed me that we as black women are each others biggest critics.  We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each others

Where is the boundary between your thoughts and feelings and my thoughts and feelings?  Where does it end, maybe there's a possibility we as human beings are more connected to one another than we realize.Run your fingers through my soul. For once, just once, feel exactly what I feel, believe what I believe, perceive as I perceive, look, experience, examine, and for once, just once, understand .Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all of you are beyond the pain.,but as we know it only in an open, nonjudgmental space can we acknowledge what we are feeling. Only in an open space where we're not all caught up in our own version of reality can we see and hear and feel who others really are, which allows us to be with them and communicate with them properly.When you understand that what most people really want is simply to feel good about themse

The word Compete sounds so much like a game. What's the name of this game? and what does the winner really gets? Why would I compete to hold on to a man? I don't want to compete I don't suppose to be in the game. It almost feel like you are chasing something.  Its a lot of competition out there and there will always be. It always happen when you get married or in a relationship that the women and men be on the prowl. Lets be honest, men  and women are more interesting when he/she is married or in a relationship.I played the game. Competition doesn't create character, it exposes it.Imagine a man  really in love: he won't waste time speculating whether other women equally merit his affection. I think men like it when women push up on them. even the flirting can get out of hand. its the gentle art of making a man feel pleased with himself,  If women are doing what they suppose to do, making thier spouses happy I see no reason why it should be a competition with the o

IN THIS LIFE IT'S EITHER YOU LOVE ME AND ACCEPT ME FOR ME OR YOU HATE ME THERE IS NO IN BETWEEN.. There is a risk involved in everything Every time you share a smile Every time you shed a tear You are opening yourself up to hurt. Some people tread slowly through life,Avoiding the closeness risk brings,Side-stepping the things they can't understand Turning away from those who care too much, Those who care stay too long,Those who hold too tightly, There is never an easy way to love You can not approach it cautiously It will not wait for you to arm yourself.It does not care if you turn away It is everywhere, it is everything. In the name of love, how much love is lost? To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness (robert brault). ..Love is, above all, the gift of oneself....and then there are those days when want to say Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate! 

I shall never fear or avoid things of which I do not know.. I do know that you block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith. there is a time to take councel of your fears and there are times when to never listen to any fear. Desire is the need to add something to yourself in order to be yourself fully. Can we seperate wants from desires? Lust from Love or like? After a few (or many) bad relationships, it's so easy to shut down, give up, and stop believing that the right person is out there for us. Our hearts yearn to fall in love, but our minds insist it's not possible, and we enter into a tug-of-war with ourselves. It's as if one part of us is screaming, "Yes! I deserve a great relationship!" while another part insists, "I'll never find him or her." When our beliefs contradict our desires, we experience an inner conflict that not only paralyzes us, but can actually prevent us from recognizing the possibilities for love th