"Just Being Me"

I may not be the one you asked for. I may not be the one you expect. I am however, the one who was sent. A lot of people don't know how that works. God put people in our lives for a reason. some are just passing thru and some stay a while. and some are there to teach us some life lessons.Our lives are filled with doorways. We call them transitions. They each take us to a new adventures. Some doorways appear to hold us back but when we later remember them, we find that they actually moved us forward, we just weren't aware of it at the time. Some people learn from their mistakes, others avoid making many mistakes by learning from the mistakes of others. We always wonder why we are here, or why this person came into our lives, well everthing happens for a reason. We do things to try to avoid what's going on in our lives, but our lives have already been written, but we try to change it because this is not what we want.. Souls do not need to be saved. Egos need clarification. In

Karen's Reality: ~Nuthin But a Collective Hunch~: Flirting....Attention without Intention.. : "Hmmmmmmm..or the art of keeping intimacy at a safe distance.I flirt maybe more than i can care to count a day, Because I am single, I feel l..."

Hmmmmmmm..or the art of keeping intimacy at a safe distance.I flirt maybe more than i can care to count a day, Because I am single, I feel like I can do this, but where do we draw the line?..Would i flirt with a married man? Not intentionally, Would I flirt with a Single man, Why of course Only if I am physically attracted to him. Does it matters if he's in a relationship, Well....you know..If he is in a relationship and he loves the one he's with..It shouldnt matter what i say right? In my mind, He's just a single guy. meaning not married. But i dont do that often. Flirting is the art of making a man feel pleased with himself. I flirt sometimes knowing and sometimes i dont know until later that's what i was doing. If you are physically attracted to somebody it dont mean you want them all the time, it means that you are attracted to them. Some women flirt more with what they say, and some with what they do...I dont make a career out of it. Flirting is a lot like fashion

I think we as women deserve a Mental Health Day at least once a month and on a Monday..A desire to be in charge of our own lives, a need for control, is born in each of us. It is essential to our mental health, and our success, that we take control.The key to both mental and physical health is not to mourn the past, anticipate trouble, or worry about the future; but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.A day to visit ourselves..There are two kinds of satisfaction or happiness:  one mainly through mental peace;  another physical comfort. They say Stress is nothing more than a socially acceptable form of mental illness..hmmmm that maybe true in some form. How I take care of myself mentally, emotionally, and physically is a reflection of my spiritual evolution.. 

The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about,.Who is to judge one flower to be a weed and another to be a delight? The weed was a delight unto itself before judgment arrived. Now it is rejected, deprived of love and must spread to be noticed..Often times we get hung up on what people are saying about another.We never stop to ask or to get to know a person. and nine times out of 10 we think we are too good for them anyway..There is only one good, knowledge, and one evil, ignorance.. I think that Fear always springs from ignorance. We allow our ignorance to prevail upon us and make us think we can survive alone, alone in patches, alone in groups, alone in races, even alone in genders.And as Martin Luther King always said...Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity..real talk

We ... tend to evaluate others on the basis of physical, outward appearance: their "good looks," their social status, their family pedigrees, their degrees, or their economic situations. The Lord, however, has a different standard by which he measures a person. When it came time to choose a king to replace King Saul, the Lord gave this criteria to his prophet Samuel .for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.Our true beauty is defined by our soul; our appearance is just a camouflage we use to hide our true beauty, our true identity..I still give importance to appearance, although I came across some idiots very well dressed..I think I am one of those who can manage not to take on a completely different appearance under their own glance.Our lives are filled with doorways. We call them transitions. They each take us to a new adventures. Some doorways appear to hold us back but when we later remember them, we find that they actually moved us f

We must be our own before we can be another's. All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was.  I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory.  I was naïve.  I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer.  It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with:  that I am nobody but myself. We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves. It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.Learn to... be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not..The question still remains in my head from time to time, Am I  intelligent enough to understand myself?

Age is a number which puts us in chronological order of time.  Age does not have to dictate how old we feel or act.I do not feel any age yet. There is no age to the spirit. I am sitting here in my Kitchen looking out the window, not looking at anything in particular.. the birds, ducks leaves falling, my 5 yr old granddaughter reminded me to look at the leaves changing colors.  While i was sitting in the chair, I am aware that 3 other chairs is empty. I thought back when one was not empty a friend use to sit there. It crosses my mind everytime i sit there, that how is it two people can be so different. I mean our lives took off in a whole other direction.what a difference 30 yrs makes. I had known him when i was in my twenties, we broke up and never to look back untill 3 yrs ago i called him up..thinking that we can catch up and pick up where we left off. but people change and so the thier way of living. He had a head full of gray hair..he didnt look his age but older. I didnt know if i

Can you relate to that statement? Is it true? I most def can't relate to people with millions. Can I relate to the poor? Yes I can, even though at the time I didnt no the definition of poor, I was too young to know that we was scaping the bottom of the barrel. Yea there was some who had more food, better clothes, We ate free lunch, back then that was being poor. How do you think i felt when i heard somebody say, my mama gave your mama that dress for you to wear. I hate because i can remember the tinest little details of every inch of my life..Can i relate to people with millions? No!! never had anything remotely close to a million. People with millions only hang with people with millions or more. They never go outside thier cirlce of friends.  So how do you expect to be friends..You have to already have been friends before you can get to that stage.Does equal means financially? or does it means Physically, emotionally, really its hard to tell what it means or how you enterpet it,,

My mind tells me to give up, but my heart won't let me...Everybody knows that feeling right? Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, don't put up with those who are reckless with yours. You're meant to have whatever your heart desires. Whatever your heart wants that much is already a part of you. but The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers. This we know is true.If your head tells you one thing and your heart tells you another, before you do anything, you should first decide whether you have a better head or a better heart..I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am.

This past week, popular preacher, recording artist and pastor, Donnie McClurkin, went on record to declare his deep disappointment with what he sees as pastoral abuses in the body of Christ. His comments have raised a legitimate question about abuse and excesses in the body of Christ and has brought attention to a topic that has largely been ignored in the church community. In an article appearing in Essence this past week Pastor McClurkin is quoted as saying: "As pastors, we have to link arms and have bi-partisanships. The [Black] church has always been the face of the community. Now we have to take on the responsibility of becoming true servants to the people from all walks of life. I get so mad when I see these pimpin' preachers driving Rolls-Royces, Bentleys, flying around in their private jets, and making it seem like prosperity and money is the way of God when 90 percent of your congregation is on Section 8 or can't figure out how they are going to k

This is one powerful statement, It goes thru me everytime i read it..Because we are always wanting things we can't have..but the things we have goes unnoticed.You have always fought against your dreams, and 'I want' has never even shown its face.  It was always drowned out by 'I must' or 'I hope' or 'I need.When you learn not to want things so badly, life comes to you.. This is one of those day where I am all over the place. My mind is stuck wondering How did i get to the point where everything i am doing I've outgrown. I have tryed a lot of things and the only thing that gave me that natural high was when i had by own business. I think I want to get back to that point..That would be a good start. I am single (by choice). so I dont have to have a second opinion.I must do me. Who don't want to be loved? I have not gotten to that point yet.. I have to get rid of the desires and wants that i have..m y mind wants to interpret All my dreams.My heart w

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves When you change the way you think, you will change the way you feel. When you change the way you feel, you will change the way you act. When you change the way you act, you will change the way you live. When you change the way you live, you will change your world ..Everyday we deal with people with different attitudes, some talk in a round about way, some who may or may not speak to you  for what ever reason.and then you have the ones who will lie on point. those are the career liars and then there are those who thinks the sun rises and sets with them in it...oooo la la...then you have the gossip trolls, remember this Whoever gossips to you will gossip about you...Its when you start finding out things about yourself that things begin to change for you. I really never cared what people think about me, nor will i ever. but only when my feelings get thrown under the bus and ran over do i start taken no

You are not the roles that you play.But you do play them, and they do have real consequences.Why do we always have to stay in the same mode all the time. I see most people are stuck on image.always in that professional mode. They want people to look at them in the same way all the time. I am very sure you dont live that way, because at the end of the day, You are who you pretend to be. I think the older we get the worse we become. We miss out on a lot because we have set our standards so high.The quality of an individual is reflected in the standards they set for themselves..Some individuals have developed such strong internal standards that they no longer need the opinion of others to judge whether they have performed a task well or not..Its ok to have standards but not at a level where they cant be met. You notice how we pick a person apart because they dont meet that list you have. but that doesnt mean that's not the right person for you. Everybody wont be perfect."dont get

  A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. No matter how old they get, My 20 yr old decided to get on a plane and go New Jersery to see his girlfriend. Well that was a first for him and me. He wanted to do this alone. His first trip his father drove him up i was ok with that, But when he told me he wanted to fly alone my mind went to the another zone. First of all we never had a long distance relationship, we always dated someone from where we lived. but this was a first in the family..We never stop being a parent. I hear folk say, well he is grown, Well technically yes, But he is still my child. I am still trying to show him the right way to do things. The worse thing anybody body can give me is advice on how to be a parent and you dont have any children, there is nothing you will be able to tell me, all the books in the world still wont get you anywhere with me. That was the only thing I didnt like about Oprah when she had a show on children, oh su