"Just Being Me"

Nothing is more damaging to a new truth than an old error. I wanted to believe that when a person comes out of a bad relationship one could go into another one without the excess baggage..But that is not true. People need time to heal, weather it is physical or mental  abuse going on in the marriage or relationship..I found that If you haven't gotten over it, chances of you  getting into a new relationship without problems will be totally impossible. Everything that has gone wrong with the relationship will be your fault..How much time is needed? I gave myself about a few years..Because I was an angry woman.. I had to forgive..the wounds still felt fresh. I didn't want to date anybody with the attitude that I had..The best feelings in your life come when you start feeling good after you've been feeling just awful..We put up this protective wall not letting nothing in..But while we are blocking everything we are blocking the joy we could have..Its ok to learn from the past.

The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: Decide what you want.”What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction, I know To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness, Which of us can resist the temptation of being thought indispensable? Be faithful to that which exists nowhere but in yourself- and thus make yourself indispensable”"What you want isn't always what you need and what you need isn't always what you want. Therefore sacrifices have to be made in order for you to achieve happiness..Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same... Women are not pals enough with men, so we must make ourselves indispensable. After all, we have the greatest weapon in our hands by just being wom

It can destroy you..Every day I get up at the same time sat on the side of the bed..sometimes I say nothing..Sometimes I say "Lord I am your child". He knows what I am talking about.. He knows me better than I know myself.. You know how you listen to the DJays on the Radio..They Love what they do..I have not turned on the radio and they not loving what they do..We should love what we do..If you want to be successful, know what you are doing, love what you are doing, and believe in what you are doing..You cannot just consider or talk about a path with heart. You must pursue it against all odds. If something rings true for you, then nothing and no one will be able to keep you from it. sometimes we are afraid to live our truths.Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. It doesn't interest me what you do for a living I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing..To fully open your heart to someon

If misery loves company, misery has company enough.. Everyday I hear the same thing from one person. Nothing ever comes from their mouth that's positive..Ever Never..and that is sad, I think they need to re examine the lives in which they live. If you are miserable in your marriage, relationships, Job, Why not get out of it. a piece of mind is better than anything in the world. You bring everybody morale down when  we never hear GOOD THINGS.. I can say, Oh It's such a beautiful day outside, and they will say..No i see a cloud it looks like rain..dang, not a damn cloud in the sky..but you can't enjoy the sun on your back...Wow..At some point in our lives we must c hoose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.. Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it..Most people would rather be certain they're miserable, than risk being happy... Nobody really cares if you're mise

It seems like people are all the time making themselves themselves, but they don't really know it.  You can only have true vision when you look behind.  A person can slide so fast into being something they never really intended..As far as inner transformation is concerned, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself, and you certainly cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter..Nobody can give us what we really already are. Wouldn’t it be terrible if somebody could give you what you really are? cause if they could give it to you, they could mos def take it away. Which brings me back to another question. Do we change? I say No, We may change the way we do things. But WE don't change..It's vital to remember who you really are. It's very important. It isn't a good idea to rely on other people to do it for you, you see. They always get it wrong, becaus