"Just Being Me"

Taking one foot and putting it in front of the other, that is the only way to travel forward...If however you take steps forward whilst looking backward; well -then you will fall over because you end up tripping over something you would easily have seen if looking where you were going in the first place. So, when looking back just stay still for a moment, allow yourself to reflect, but then you must at some point turn around and just keep moving - or you will stagnant on the spot which means going nowhere at all.I try not to ever look back because when you do, you'll go right back..Whether you want it to or not, life goes on.. We spend too much time dwelling on the possibilty that things may get better if we just do this.or that. I am just tired of doing the same old things. same routine, same everything. I need something different, I need some changes somewhere. At some point even flirting gets old..It's just attention without intentions...OR IS IT?.We miss our blessings...

Why should I care what other people think of me? I am who I am. And who I wanna be...Who I'm not makes me who I am.I am good to people who are good.I am also good to people who are not good. Because Virtue is goodness. If I Really Cared. Who you are would be more important to me than who I am.  Where you hurt would be more important than that I'm well.  What you feel would be more important than what I know. I'd look you in the eyes when you talk to me; I'd think about what you're saying rather than what I'm going to say next, I'd hear your feelings as well as your words.  I'd listen without defending. I'd hear without deciding whether you are right or wrong. I'd ask you why and how, not just when and where.  I'd laugh with you but not at you I'd talk with you and not to you, and I'd know when it's time to do neither.  I wouldn't climb over your walls.  I'd wait until you let me in the gate.  I wouldn't unlock your sec...

You've trained yourself to face reality. You've trained yourself to tell the truth. You've trained yourself to tell it like it is. So in the beginning, these fantasies feel a little inappropriate, because it's like you're fooling yourself. Sometimes people will say, "Well, isn't this just denial?" And we say, we hope so! We hope that you are denying the absence that you do not want. And we hope that you are embracing the presence of what you do. But somehow the idea of denial has become a dirty word to you; like it is virtuous to face the reality of the horror of your own lives. And we would be ignoring anything that did not please us. We would get our eyes on what feels good. Opinion is a denial of truth. For if each man is entitled to his own opinion then there can be nothing which is false, consequently there can be nothing which is true either.I think we all go into this stage where we just dont want to know what the truth is. I ask some one. Well,...

So what you ain't perfect. You will never be perfect, neither will I. Not because it isn't possible. In our heads, we will all reach some sort of perfection. But simply because it doesn't exist. Sometimes... when you hold out for everything, you walk away with nothing and When you aim for perfection, you discover it's a moving target..There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, where they do that at? Perfect love is rare indeed -for to be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist,the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain. so get over trying to be the perfect person or looking for that perfect man, Just trying being who you are. I am perfect just the way I am and just the way I am not. please beleive..

When I first heard of the movie "For Colored Girls" I got so excited.  I had the idea of getting as many women together that I could think of to go see this movie.  I had visions of group discussions and moments shared with one another that would lead to healing and growth; I guess I kind of imagined a Women’s Empowerment Conference type of setting. Well after I shared my idea with a few women, reality set in and I  realized that so many of us wouldn't be willing to participate for various reasons: You don't like me, you don't care for somebody I might invite, you only hang out with certain people, you don't understand the big deal about Tyler Perry making yet another movie about black people and our issues for all the world to see, you don't like crowds, so n so is too ghetto, such and such is too uppity  etc... It has ALWAYS amazed me that we as black women are each others biggest critics.  We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each others ...