"Just Being Me"

So what you ain't perfect. You will never be perfect, neither will I. Not because it isn't possible. In our heads, we will all reach some sort of perfection. But simply because it doesn't exist. Sometimes... when you hold out for everything, you walk away with nothing and When you aim for perfection, you discover it's a moving target..There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, where they do that at? Perfect love is rare indeed -for to be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist,the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain. so get over trying to be the perfect person or looking for that perfect man, Just trying being who you are. I am perfect just the way I am and just the way I am not. please beleive..

When I first heard of the movie "For Colored Girls" I got so excited.  I had the idea of getting as many women together that I could think of to go see this movie.  I had visions of group discussions and moments shared with one another that would lead to healing and growth; I guess I kind of imagined a Women’s Empowerment Conference type of setting. Well after I shared my idea with a few women, reality set in and I  realized that so many of us wouldn't be willing to participate for various reasons: You don't like me, you don't care for somebody I might invite, you only hang out with certain people, you don't understand the big deal about Tyler Perry making yet another movie about black people and our issues for all the world to see, you don't like crowds, so n so is too ghetto, such and such is too uppity  etc... It has ALWAYS amazed me that we as black women are each others biggest critics.  We are the quickest to bring each other down, find each others ...

Where is the boundary between your thoughts and feelings and my thoughts and feelings?  Where does it end, maybe there's a possibility we as human beings are more connected to one another than we realize.Run your fingers through my soul. For once, just once, feel exactly what I feel, believe what I believe, perceive as I perceive, look, experience, examine, and for once, just once, understand .Many of us spend our whole lives running from feeling with the mistaken belief that you cannot bear the pain. But you have already borne the pain. What you have not done is feel all of you are beyond the pain.,but as we know it only in an open, nonjudgmental space can we acknowledge what we are feeling. Only in an open space where we're not all caught up in our own version of reality can we see and hear and feel who others really are, which allows us to be with them and communicate with them properly.When you understand that what most people really want is simply to feel good about thems...

The word Compete sounds so much like a game. What's the name of this game? and what does the winner really gets? Why would I compete to hold on to a man? I don't want to compete I don't suppose to be in the game. It almost feel like you are chasing something.  Its a lot of competition out there and there will always be. It always happen when you get married or in a relationship that the women and men be on the prowl. Lets be honest, men  and women are more interesting when he/she is married or in a relationship.I played the game. Competition doesn't create character, it exposes it.Imagine a man  really in love: he won't waste time speculating whether other women equally merit his affection. I think men like it when women push up on them. even the flirting can get out of hand. its the gentle art of making a man feel pleased with himself,  If women are doing what they suppose to do, making thier spouses happy I see no reas...

IN THIS LIFE IT'S EITHER YOU LOVE ME AND ACCEPT ME FOR ME OR YOU HATE ME THERE IS NO IN BETWEEN.. There is a risk involved in everything Every time you share a smile Every time you shed a tear You are opening yourself up to hurt. Some people tread slowly through life,Avoiding the closeness risk brings,Side-stepping the things they can't understand Turning away from those who care too much, Those who care stay too long,Those who hold too tightly, There is never an easy way to love You can not approach it cautiously It will not wait for you to arm yourself.It does not care if you turn away It is everywhere, it is everything. In the name of love, how much love is lost? To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness (robert brault). ..Love is, above all, the gift of oneself....and then there are those days when want to say Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate!