Should Women Compete to Hold On to Thier Men? NOT!!!

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The word Compete sounds so much like a game. What's the name of this game? and what does the winner really gets? Why would I compete to hold on to a man? I don't want to compete I don't suppose to be in the game. It almost feel like you are chasing something.  Its a lot of competition out there and there will always be. It always happen when you get married or in a relationship that the women and men be on the prowl. Lets be honest, men  and women are more interesting when he/she is married or in a relationship.I played the game. Competition doesn't create character, it exposes it.Imagine a man  really in love: he won't waste time speculating whether other women equally merit his affection. I think men like it when women push up on them. even the flirting can get out of hand. its the gentle art of making a man feel pleased with himself,  If women are doing what they suppose to do, making thier spouses happy I see no reason why it should be a competition with the other women. Women these days really dont care if you are married or in a relationship, If they want you, they will come after you. It's really all about the man, if his relationship is solid. because sometimes we think we got it going on, and he/she feeling totally different.That's why it is a good idea to always know where you stand in a relationship. Some people dont want to know because of  fear of losing thier spouse..But why stay in a relationship that's not working? I see people staying in realtionships for reasons off the charts...low self esteem, money property, kids, some of them stay because they dont want to see them with nobody else, They dont love him, they just don't want susie to have him. (been there done that!!), But when you know better you do better. People pretend to be happy, But we must be careful what we pretend to be...Some people dont need to be in a relationship, they need to be single. The minute that you start thinking about another woman or man, Its time to go, You are not happy and you know it. The person you love and the person who loves you is never ever the same person..I know men look at other women, We expect that, But are you thinking about them all the time, is the question. And then there are those who settle. I learned that people are as happy as they make up thier minds to be. Competing is too much like manual labor..No can't do it. Robert Brault said this best,  To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness..

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