One Sided.."Dating and Marriage Outside Our Race" Men and Women Have It Twisted..

When I turned 40 yrs old (that was 13 years ago) just freshly out of a divorce, I want different!! So I promised myself that I wouldn't date anybody of "Color" Because in my mind and experience Black Men was taught to have this "I'm the Man of the House Mentality" its ok to wear the pants but just don't act like you are my father!! Because truly I want you to "Be the Man" Put me in my place when need be!! Slap me around a few times..lol lol (Just kidding about the last one don't even try that on  any day that ends in "Y") mmm hmm besides sending the Police you might wanna send an ambulance or the morgue..my fav line Sling blade..lol lol Just a few laughs to take me away from the seriousness of this topic. But during the time of Divorce Saga and how it played out, I wanted different, Its funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back Everything is different..When I told most of my friend that I crossed over for a while they were Mad.. I mean mostly the men.. Why is that? A friend of mine has a lot of friends of different race, He is dating a White Girl, my first reaction was No no no, that's not you, but I have learned to Roll with it..Not sure if I like it totally, but I asked him a very important question!! Do you love her? he said he do, Although there is a difference in loving somebody and being in love with them. ok well that was all the questions I had.. But why is it When we (women) do the same exact thing, Its a No Go!! Totally confused on this one..Its like saying Boy if you don't  look like Calvin Klein Models Don't expect us to look like Victoria Secrets Angels..  Some Men will say ok cool I don't have a problem with it, but really I love the Way You Lie!! My Gfriend was like No Its not right because of the struggles we went through being black in slavery times.. You know I feel this way, There are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage no matter the race: If you don't respect the other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to compromise, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can't talk openly about what goes on between you, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of values in life, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike. So really It doesn't matter who we fall for as long as we don't settle.I have no preference at the moment,“It's very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less -- even a vague pathetic facsimile of less -- than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get and please don't settle for less. These men and women exist because there are a lot of us out there who allow them to. I just want to be happy and not pretend to be happy!! I have the patience to wait until My Mud settles and the Water is Clear...

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