What you Keep Coming back to is Who you Really Are

Looking out my kitchen window

Bold Statement I think, but it keeps being true,Was it someone else? Was it not you yourself? Well, I can only be me!! The most common form of despair is not being who you are, We must be careful what we pretend to be, because you are what you pretend to be..Often time I see people changing who they are to fit in, Especially when it comes to relationships, Why can't you find a man who will except you for who you really are?. Why would you change yourself just to get what you call your idea man..That will last every bit of a short time, because sooner or later the real you will show..I can understand If we don't show who we are to associates, We have a face for each of our friends. Our action still shows who we really are, Its not that we are being different This is really you..You can't live with a person for 20 yrs and not know who he/she really is..You knew who they were when you married them.. Lets use Maria Shriver and Arnold Swartz... I stated in an early post and discussion That it was no way Maria didnt know about that child and the affair..and that it was polictical, and that was true, Maria knew years ago but because Ass was in office, Ted Kennedy didnt want that to get out just yet, I know its a time and place for everything, But how we put on face to make people think we a happy.. I just don't know if I can do that for such a long period of time..But Maria knew who she married he was being who he really is..We as women/men tend to keep things hidden, how we feel is at the top of the list, If we hold back on the emotions - if we don't allow ourselves to go all the way through them we can never get to being detached, we're too busy being afraid. we're afraid of the pain, we're afraid of the grief. we're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing ourselves into these emotions, by allowing ourselves to dive in, all the way, over our head even ,we experience them fully and completely we know what pain is. we know what love is. we know what grief is. And only then can we say, "Alright I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.. It is sad We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.Learn to... be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not. because There is just one life for each of us: our own. But what ever you do, Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.. " What you Really Keep Coming back to is Who you Really are"