Being Married..Is it Highly Over Rated?

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I think it is,. Am I saying this because I had one failed marriage? maybe!! It was not at all that it's cracked up to be. maybe because we went about it the wrong way..and i knew from the start..This is not the way it suppose to be..If you love a person and they love you and you want to spend the rest of your life together, does the paper seal the deal, it most def can't guarantee you will be together for ever..Why not just live together for ever?..Before marriage a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said. After marriage he will fall asleep before you have finished saying it..lol I'm jes sayin, I'm jes sayin.. I mean, what does any one life really mean? But I guess  in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying "Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness..but do you really have to be married to witness that?..I don't think I will ever get married again. like I said before. I think it is over rated..I am at the age where I really don't too much care one way or the other. I like being able to do what I want when i want.. I like flirting ( attention without intentions) well some of them are hard to say.. You got the ones where you have placed in this category know that the chances of you nailing him is like null and void.so they are fantasy men..we visited, wonder, imagine the eye candy and what he may be able to do for you and we move on to the next one..lol... Right now at this moment, I think I just want to look and lust..and lust and look..I know the difference between Lust and love..a lot of people don't!! after all lust desires to please self at the expense of someone else because lust wants to get. Love desires to please someone else at the expense of self because love wants to give.. Is it wrong for me to want,( good man)( hood man) good means all the things a women so desperately needs and wants family sensitivity, great love making...and that hood man when it comes sex...cuz some days we just want sex..that is all..(keeping it real)..someone who make me laugh and be physical attracted to them at the same time..I am so tired of liking this in one guy that in another.. wishing this had that and this one had this..its crazy..Trying to find a great guy to just date is hard finding one to marry, is just not on the map..You don't fall into love, you grow into it. You fall into lust or infatuation..I can see me falling into lust..but it may only last as my hormones let it..lol lol Yesterday..(april 30th) was my 51st birthday..I decided not to do the things I ususally do..love me, like me, hate me, there is no lust anymore; be a friend or befriend me there is no in between; care for me and treat me well or leave me alone so i can move on with my life..

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